Thursday, May 30, 2013

Are We There Yet?

This is gonna be short and sweet - but it's something at least!

I read this hilarious post on Jen Hatmakers blog today and all on my own, in my living room, in my sassy green chair that is more comfortable to sit in than it looks, I laughed out loud.  I reposted.  I wanted to stand up and cheer and shout "Me TOO!" 

It was somehow freeing in that moment to admit that I too am a Worst End of School Year Mom.  Care to join me?

There are lots of great things about homeschooling. I highly recommend it!  But getting to the almost-end of the school year is just totally depressing. It can be downright disheartening.  Thank you Jen, for giving me permission to say so.

I know that homeschooling Mamas are a strange breed to many.   And I don't want to speak for everyone, because if there's one thing I've learned about homeschoolers is that they really really don't like to be categorized.  But I want to say this to my comrades in arms:

You do NOT have to always have it all together.  Especially in May.  It's okay to admit you can't wait for the school year to be over.  It doesn't mean you should quit homeschooling (unless it does, and that's ok too!) You don't have to prove that what you are doing is important.  It is. End of story.  Just remember we're all in this together - Sisters sending their kids to public school.  Girlfriends sending their kids to private school.  You teaching your kids at home.  You are all raising and loving your kids the best way you know how.  So be real.  When we are real we free one another to be different.  Different is good.  

Just be faithful. And remember this my homschooling sisters :

If you feel like you have wrecked your kids more this year than if they were in  a traditional school - take heart - it's probably not true.  I'm fairly certain my kids will end up wrecked no matter where I send them and I don't like packing lunches, so we homeschool. (We all have our reasons, okay?)  I'm collecting pop cans to contribute to their therapy bills.  It helps me sleep at night - especially in May.  

If you wake up every morning in May and your kids are at each other and you wish to sweet heaven that you had six field trips that someone else could take them on - you are still a good Mom and teacher.  Just maybe not today. And here's the best part Mama - that's okay.  We can't always be awesome. Seriously.  We can't. Noone can. So here's what I suggest:  Call a friend.  Tell her you need to practice socializing your kids.  Put on the telly and let your kids brains turn to mush while you and your girlfriend eat from the hidden chocolate stash and cry about how tired you are until you laugh at how funny life is and you wouldn't trade it for anything.

If you find yourself three quarters of the way through your curriculum and you just can not CAN. NOT. do one more lapbook or diorama of a tsetse fly habitat - just let it go. That report card is important, don't get me wrong - but it's NOT a report card on you.  Let that one sink in.  It will change your life if you believe it. 

Do your best.  Every day.  But remember that your best in May is very different than your best in October.  Seriously.  It's gonna be alright.

And when all else fails, just repeat to yourself over and over, the same thing Vancouver Canucks fans have been telling themselves since time began:

There's always next year.


  1. I am so there with you as a co-homeschooler mom. I see the end where there is 5 science lessons left, 5 LA lessons left and a novel study, yet.... I want it done yesterday.
    I also read your post from early may. I understand the climbing process, one ladder I am climbing seems like it has been a long climb and is not over yet. I just need to reming myself that God is with me on the climb and when the timing is right He will let me slide down and enjoy all the work He has done in me on the climb up. Sometimes I wish the climb was shorter and easier, yet if I look back on some of the climbs past. I would not change it for the world. how would God have made me who I am today if I had not completed those climbs.
    Would love to chat about homeschooling sometime and other things, yet I do not have a google account. Any thoughts on that one? :)

  2. Joanne! Welcome to the blog. I'd love to chat with you sometime - send me an email karinaloewen at gmail dot come or find me on facebook!


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